In general, we all have a basic need to have connection with others. While there are a few exceptions, such as those on the autistic spectrum, the need for intimacy on some level is vital to our mental, emotional and physical well-being. This is why, for most people, solitary confinement or exclusion are such painful and cruel punishments.

If you are not fulfilling your need for intimacy, you are highly likely to experience some level of depression and anxiety. 

How do I fulfill my need for intimacy?

Many of us are lucky enough to have a partner or a spouse, with whom we can share intimate moments. From a gentle touch on the arm, to kissing and sexual intercourse, we are fortunate to be able to deeply fulfill our need for intimacy. This may seem the ideal, but even if you live alone, it is still possible to improve this area of your life. It is also true to say that relationships with a loved one may not always be running at their best, and the intimacy that once was there, may now be less.

Exam season is almost upon us and many young people will be working towards qualifications in earnest now.

It can be hard enough focusing on doing the work and making sure you are revising thoroughly enough. For many, though there is the stress, anxiety and worry of the exams themselves. 

Exams, by definition, can be very stressful. By their very nature they ‘high stakes’ and can feel like your whole future depends on them. Added to this, they frequently take place in an alien environment that is nothing like the normal learning space. Students can feel isolated and exposed in a hall of desk upon desk.

It is no wonder that many students can experience varying symptoms.  Ranging from butterflies, lack of sleep and even occasionally all-out panic attack both before and during the exams.

I am one of Vinings’ Life Coaches and a Master Practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programming.  I have worked with many teenagers and older students, both in schools and one-to-one. By changing the way they experience the exams and employing some techniques, I have found that they can often feel significantly better.

Feeling better can also mean that students perform better and can be more focused on their work.

Exam Confidence Workshop

That is why I have planned this one-off exam confidence session on Tuesday 30 April at Cafe Rouge in Haywards Heath.

The session is aimed at students and a parent or parents. I will talk about the causes and effects of exam stress and then teach some techniques and approaches that can help students cope better over the period. The presence of parents ensures that there is someone else who is familiar with the techniques who can support them to consciously use the techniques going forward.

If you are interested in attending this event, numbers are limited to 22 and some places are already allocated so please do sign up soon. You can purchase tickets on my website, or make your booking directly over the phone on 07877074053.

Working with ‘Big-T’ and ‘small-t’ traumas.

Why both deserve our respect and attention.

By Ruth Anderson-Davis

EFT & Matrix Reimprinting can be helpful in releasing anxiety, stress, depression, low self-esteem, phobias, traumas, negative subconscious beliefs, grief or any past event you might need help moving on from.

Even physical conditions can sometimes have their root in the mental/emotional stress. Finding and gently releasing the root cause of emotional stress can bring great relief, healing and new perspectives to your life.

“Alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much” – Helen Keller.

Returning to this occasional series on the basic psychological needs. Today the focus is on our need for community.

Human beings are essentially social animals. Throughout history, from the earliest times we have lived in groups and depended on each other. This has been part of our success, if we can call it that.

To varying degrees, people need people. One of the basic psychological needs that must be fulfilled to keep you free from depression and anxiety is that  sense of community. More than this it is about making a contribution to others.  Essentially, you need to feel part of something larger than yourself, part a community of people, working for something that has meaning and significance.